LIES WE BELIEVE. TRUTH #1 & 2

Telling Ourselves the Truth

NOTE: The majority of the content is on the audio

The Truth:   To Err is Human

                 :  You Can’t Please Everyone

If at first you don’t succeed, you’re running about average. ~M. H. Alderson

~ Do you believe it? 

Truth #1 - To err is human.

negative self-talk

~ Mistakes and Anger go hand in hand

James 1:19-21

¹⁹ My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, ²⁰ because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. ²¹ Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.

~ How human is making mistakes?

“To err is human, but when the eraser wears out ahead of your pencil, you’re overdoing it” ~Jerry Jenkins

Truth #2 – You can’t please everyone

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure – try to please everybody. ~Herbert Bayard Swope

Song -  Garden Party - 'can't please everyone, so you, got to please yourself'??

Galatians 1:10
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.

~ Childhood & Approval

Approval Addiction vs. People Pleasing - there is a difference

The way out….  The cure

Steps 1 – 3 and… I can't. God can. I'll let Him.

Things that help in overcoming:

1.    List priorities – renewing love for God needs to be at the top

2.    Start nurturing a close, intimate relationship with those that have been negatively impacted by your approval addiction

3.    Reach out and develop new healthy friendships and mentors

4.    Make a commitment to balance your life better: work, rest, diet, exercise, spiritual development, fun!

The only way to get your life back is to risk not receiving the applause from others! 

Homework:  3 assignments

Telling Ourselves the Truth

Group Work

1.    To err is human.  Discuss your self-talk when you make a mistake.  What do you say?

2.    As we consider having the truth in our minds about mistakes, how does our self-talk change?  What do we say?

3.    Do you see any connection between your anger and/or depression as it relates to a lack of embracing this truth in particular?

4.     Where did your desire to please others come from?

5.    How much of what you do is about pleasing God – and how much is it about pleasing others?

6.    Go over homework assignments again for this week – which will be the hardest for you and why?