Wednesday, June 6, 2012

LIES WE BELIEVE. TRUTH #1 & 2


Telling Ourselves the Truth

NOTE: The majority of the content is on the audio

The Truth:   To Err is Human
                 :  You Can’t Please Everyone

If at first you don’t succeed, you’re running about average. ~M. H. Alderson

~ Do you believe it? 

Truth #1 - To err is human.

negative self-talk

~ Mistakes and Anger go hand in hand

James 1:19-21

19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. 21 Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.

~ How human is making mistakes?

“To err is human, but when the eraser wears out ahead of your pencil, you’re overdoing it” ~Jerry Jenkins


Truth #2 – You can’t please everyone

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure – try to please everybody. ~Herbert Bayard Swope

Song -  Garden Party - 'can't please everyone, so you, got to please yourself'??

Galatians 1:10
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.

~ Childhood & Approval

Approval Addiction vs. People Pleasing - there is a difference

The way out….  The cure

Steps 1 – 3 and… I can't. God can. I'll let Him.

Things that help in overcoming:
1.    List priorities – renewing love for God needs to be at the top
2.    Start nurturing a close, intimate relationship with those that have been negatively impacted by your approval addiction
3.    Reach out and develop new healthy friendships and mentors
4.    Make a commitment to balance your life better: work, rest, diet, exercise, spiritual development, fun!

The only way to get your life back is to risk not receiving the applause from others! 
Homework:  3 assignments

Telling Ourselves the Truth
Group Work

1.    To err is human.  Discuss your self-talk when you make a mistake.  What do you say?

2.    As we consider having the truth in our minds about mistakes, how does our self-talk change?  What do we say?

3.    Do you see any connection between your anger and/or depression as it relates to a lack of embracing this truth in particular?

4.     Where did your desire to please others come from?

5.    How much of what you do is about pleasing God – and how much is it about pleasing others?

6.    Go over homework assignments again for this week – which will be the hardest for you and why?

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